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The laws of detachment

I am talking about detachment today and how it has developed in my life so far. Here is a prior post from the time it first surfaced into my life.

https://rhapsodyboho.wordpress.com/2019/10/06/detachment/

Ever changing, hopefully growing and evolving is luckily a good thing for me. I don’t mind change and there is always something to learn on this path we call life. With it often comes the word of detachment and it has come up quite a bit. Especially in the later part of 2020.

Detachment made it’s debut in October of 2019 and made itself known to my conscious mind. Perhaps it was here before, but this time it was here to stay as if something had to give. A plan had to be developed, at least something had to be in the working, in progress of, changed. Detachment was no longer hiding in the background shadows. With news insights and life experiences deeper lessons were waiting to be learned. Perhaps it revisiting as an urge to further detach, to keep going on what in reality had been started so long ago. Maybe it reappeared as a celebration of how far I had come, cheering myself on from the sidelines to acknowledge the journey, to be proud of the steps, the times of struggle and the opportunities that l found lying in front of my door. Maybe it is to shed clarity, once more providing an honest look back .

I have done a lot of soul searching starting 2021 and I like where I’m going and how it is developing. And while detachment is growing daily from the life I have come to known so well, there is a peace like no other within me now. In recent posts I have expressed my opinion and feelings about giving ourselves far too little recognition and support. So don’t forget to acknowledge your successes and how far you have come. You have worked hard getting here, each and every day.

In my life, the change is still building, every day, in every action and experience. I am standing on the brink of a new world, on the brink of my forever. There is no fear, no worries. There is no need to have it all figured out. And when it does surface from time to time, it’s usually not here to stay.

As I review my path, I recognize the crossroads and the inability of accepting mediocre, of accepting anything less then I deserve. I guess I am coming into my crone, me goddess power. I know that each day without progress and inaction is a day that is wasted and a day I won’t get back, and yet if I need to take such a day to give my body rest or when it is tormented with chronic pain, then so be it too. I am no longer compromising, putting myself last, and I am listening a great deal and in many different ways. I don’t feel guilty or worry about coming across as selfish. Taking care of myself is essential, otherwise I am no good to anyone.

Detachments comes in many different ways such as acceptance. Here it reminds me that it is not the absence of love but the ability to take care of yourself in the midst of someone else’s choices. It is about letting yourself off the hook for their choices. It’s a nudge to re-instill that you can’t make anyone better then they choose to be, because they are doing this to themselves, not to you. It’s an urge to find compassion while loving them just the same. The laws of detachment are teaching me to allow others to be who they are, without imposing rigid ideas of what is right and wrong. It allows me to be who I am. To not force situations and to remember that solutions will emerge if you believe that even the uncertainty has a place in the grand scheme.

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We are the co-creators of our life and the time is now. More than ever are we needed to support Mother Earth and each other. Together we discover and explore our unique gifts in times of strengths, in times we lean on each other, and in times when we learn from each other. This blog started as an outlet and what I ultimately called my “Warriors Journey.” It was a way to document the ups and downs of my life, sharing my hardships as well as my successes. It showcased the struggles, but more important the ways of how to overcome them. Although we are warriors each and every day, I realized that having to be a warrior, comes from a place of pain. I decided to rename this blog, and “Phoenix Rising” now stands for the story of overcoming such a painful place. My motivation for this blog hasn’t changed and I hope to share inspiration and hope, to create a sense of belonging, a space of being heard, and connecting with like minded beings who instill a sense of oneness. We are never alone, and we are unstoppable in the pursuit of what sets our soul on fire. Who I am in a nutshell... 
I am an energy healer and Reiki Master. I am surviving a chronic disease that I’ve sent into remission three times since my initial bout, 15 years ago. I continuously challenge the status quo and by doing so I change my stars. I am a believer that anything is possible. I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that true love exists on various levels. I am an optimist that will always see the glass as half full. I am a dreamer, believing in endless possibilities. Not even the sky is the limit. I have jumped off of the hamster wheel, and I am writing a new chapter. I am chasing my Nirvana to support my most authentic self. This is my story, I am that Phoenix and I am rising from the ashes. Namaste 🙏🏼💙🦋

14 thoughts on “The laws of detachment

  1. I have similarly explored the process of detachment in the recent times. I have primarily arrived at letting go of expectations of others, not depending on them to fulfill my needs. Your post felt very resonant to me and enjoyed reading it. I have also discovered that absolute detachment is not possible. Instead it is about conscious developing of healthy attachments that are more in alignment of our well being and from there to any intention of relating to others from there.

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  2. Well written Rhapsody, all sides of actions are there to guide us. Without one side how would we understand and appreciate the other. In the beginning we give and give for that acceptance, not realising it is our acceptance that is the core of that action. While ever we ‘give’ for that acceptance, we will indeed never get it…because we have put an expectation on it and in how it should be given in return so that it will never measure up to that. That is its beauty, it will continuously show that to us until we finally say ‘enough’, I am worth more than this, and in that one action we will look deeper in why we feel as we do. Why we now will, in fear of that non acceptance because we have now held back our giving, slowly uncover ‘why’ we truly wanted that acceptance in the first place. Leading us back to that childhood fear, understanding it, and finally being freed of that ‘need’ of acceptance.
    We will only ever create a true detachment when we finally no longer hold our fear because in understanding it, its power has now diminished and no longer on our day to day ‘radar’ in all we do.
    An example, and this applies to everything, literally. You have an exam coming up, your not sure your going to be able to pass. Your studying like crazy and having trouble taking it all in. Its on your mind from dawn till midnight. It is like a weight day in and day out. All of those unknowns are taking their toll. But the moment you finish the exam it rushes out your ears never to be heard of again. Why? Simple, the stress, the unsure if you’ll do it, the worry and fear of all of that unknown…is now known. Apply that to all that you do and it is exactly the same. Know yourself, find the ‘why’ of that life fear we cart around everywhere, and just like the exam is will roll out your ears never to be heard from again. Well, a little bit because you will now appreciate exactly what it took to reach that ‘known’ place, just like any achievement. But this life achievement will be like nothing else on this earth because this one is for you…totally and utterly your life journey to find you, the true you. Appreciate it, it is a jewel like no other 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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    1. Ok let’s try this again. The gremlins didn’t posted my last reply. See it happens to me too.
      Anyways, thank you for again putting everything in such beautiful perspective. More than ever I feel your words on a constant changes and even deeper level.
      I sit here and that “known” place looks great. It has replaced storm clouds with a smile and head nod, simply knowing and understanding the workings and the process. And all of it was necessary to arrive at this point. Thank you for walking besides me throughout. 🙏🏼💙🦋😘

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      1. My pleasure dear lady. And those gremlins happen to all us bloggers, exactly when you have written a great reply or comment…and poof, never to be seen again 😂 🤣
        Anyway, you are doing the most important part…you. And on those times that you ‘see’ something from what someone has said or done and suddenly a light comes on, you finally see it for what it is. They are those moments you finally understand. You smile, you are glad to finally understand…and you let it go. Wait till your life fear is finally seen for what it is…a very powerful guide to take you to that very understanding of love…it has put you exactly where you need to be, good and bad, so that this very understanding will take your heart and pull it free from its binding. And you will see gladly that everything is as it should be, you will see that everything was for you so that you can see and understand unconditional love…by traveling through and understanding the conditional love that this world is built on. And like all ‘hindsight’ you will look back with great understanding and see that it was indeed your path to find you…and be glad that it happened exactly as it did ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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      2. And again I sit here, smile and nod my head as to words stir something familiar within. Something I have experienced already, perhaps not consistent, but I know of this feeling. The thing is that perhaps we are never fully aware, always thinking and believing we are doing the best at the time. The beauty that lies ahead is often unknown until we truly experience it, look back and realize that the feeling we held on to so much, which we thought was “it”, wasn’t really it at all.
        Being a life long learner, using the tools you have gathered so far and being open minded, willing to see and acknowledge, I think all play an important role. It’s a beautiful journey, including the fear and learning to see it for what it is. 🤗💙🦋🙏🏼

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    1. Maybe I would have agreed at a different time, but not anymore and I meet the dangerous terrify with faith and believe. Everything is always as it’s meant to be. Even the lessons have a purpose.

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  3. I think we are all experiencing this…the necessity for us to become more detached become clearer everyday…One thing that works for me often regarding detachment is being present and detach from my expectations for future. It is a very hard thing but indeed we all need it.

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    1. I think you are right and we all get there in our own due time. Expectations are a big one and letting go of trying to control the outcome was a big one for me as well. Now I’m rather surprised vs disappointed. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for stopping by. Blessings.

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