I am talking about detachment today and how it has developed in my life so far. Here is a prior post from the time it first surfaced into my life.
Ever changing, hopefully growing and evolving is luckily a good thing for me. I don’t mind change and there is always something to learn on this path we call life. With it often comes the word of detachment and it has come up quite a bit. Especially in the later part of 2020.
Detachment made it’s debut in October of 2019 and made itself known to my conscious mind. Perhaps it was here before, but this time it was here to stay as if something had to give. A plan had to be developed, at least something had to be in the working, in progress of, changed. Detachment was no longer hiding in the background shadows. With news insights and life experiences deeper lessons were waiting to be learned. Perhaps it revisiting as an urge to further detach, to keep going on what in reality had been started so long ago. Maybe it reappeared as a celebration of how far I had come, cheering myself on from the sidelines to acknowledge the journey, to be proud of the steps, the times of struggle and the opportunities that l found lying in front of my door. Maybe it is to shed clarity, once more providing an honest look back .
I have done a lot of soul searching starting 2021 and I like where I’m going and how it is developing. And while detachment is growing daily from the life I have come to known so well, there is a peace like no other within me now. In recent posts I have expressed my opinion and feelings about giving ourselves far too little recognition and support. So don’t forget to acknowledge your successes and how far you have come. You have worked hard getting here, each and every day.
In my life, the change is still building, every day, in every action and experience. I am standing on the brink of a new world, on the brink of my forever. There is no fear, no worries. There is no need to have it all figured out. And when it does surface from time to time, it’s usually not here to stay.
As I review my path, I recognize the crossroads and the inability of accepting mediocre, of accepting anything less then I deserve. I guess I am coming into my crone, me goddess power. I know that each day without progress and inaction is a day that is wasted and a day I won’t get back, and yet if I need to take such a day to give my body rest or when it is tormented with chronic pain, then so be it too. I am no longer compromising, putting myself last, and I am listening a great deal and in many different ways. I don’t feel guilty or worry about coming across as selfish. Taking care of myself is essential, otherwise I am no good to anyone.
Detachments comes in many different ways such as acceptance. Here it reminds me that it is not the absence of love but the ability to take care of yourself in the midst of someone else’s choices. It is about letting yourself off the hook for their choices. It’s a nudge to re-instill that you can’t make anyone better then they choose to be, because they are doing this to themselves, not to you. It’s an urge to find compassion while loving them just the same. The laws of detachment are teaching me to allow others to be who they are, without imposing rigid ideas of what is right and wrong. It allows me to be who I am. To not force situations and to remember that solutions will emerge if you believe that even the uncertainty has a place in the grand scheme.