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Eliminating distraction

Distractions are all around us and sometimes too much of a good thing is simply too much. You might wonder what this black and white photograph has to do with it and I’m merely using it as a simple example. You see, in my case it actually looked better when I stripped it of its color. I saw more in the monotone range, including the light and the shadows of the subject. The stark contrast of what needed to stand out and the soft disappearing of subjects in the background that needed to fade away.

I don’t know why it spoke to me in a quote, in the process of elimination and the concept of less is more. Par for my course and journey so far I suppose. Perhaps a sign that I am in track.

“And sometimes the simplicity of black and white is all that is needed to eliminate the distraction.”

~Rhapsody Bohème

Keep it simple and don’t add more elements that you can handle. Even dreaming in color is sometimes too much. What can you eliminate today?

🙏🏼💙

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Quotes and random musings

Picture: Google

Food for thought. Actions and reactions. Give and take. Cause and effect. Being a sucker for quotes, they always seem to find me at the right time, speaking their magic meaning, often leaving me reassured, at times pondering, and sometimes on the heels of revelations and aha moments. I never heard it quite like this when it comes to the quote below, but I find truths between those lines and I’m sure we each have a little Story to tell.

“Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you.”

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This post has been scheduled for over a week now and I feel the need to edit and add to it a little. While I still believe in much of it’s content, I have learned a few things in the past week. When I read the quote now, there is a deeper meaning that emerges. A meaning that tells me that a statement like this comes from trauma, a previous experience that has left a wound, a scar if you will. Because of this scar and the fear to experience this pain again, a warning is given to be careful of what you tolerate, putting the responsibility and the burden into your corner as if it was entirely up to you what follows next. Is it really all within your control, the control we urge ourselves so often to let go of? And is it fair to place such burdens onto ourselves? Surely everything has it’s limits, no different when it comes to this quote, but my main goal here would be not to let my experiences define me and harden my heart. Not to be obsessed with having control and the upper hand, but to trust and believe in the good of every situation, even if it has challenges attached.

What do you think?

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The need for more need

Morning dew was evaporating during the first sunlight on this peaceful and serene day. A moment so simple, filled with minimalism and yet it was so profound, peaceful. I could feel it breathing calm and serenity into my existence as a deep sigh left my body. “This is what it’s all about isn’t it” I thought to myself.

Next came the realization of the exact opposite and our need for needing. If this felt so serene and peaceful, why was there even a need for more? And still, it seems like we have all found ourselves in that position before. Whether it is needing material things, affection, love, understanding, to be heard, a friend, a shoulder to lean on or whatever else, it’s part of the human condition.

We all have needs and if those needs are not met, we eventually start to question things. Often it is feeding our need that can produce the effect of making us feel better, when in actuality it is only a temporary solution, a bandaid so to say. You’ve heard of retail therapy for example. Perhaps even having a drink to forget. But isn’t reality always catching up with us, soon or later?

Recently I’ve read that needing is a state of the ego. That the ego tries to convince us that we are empty and need something to feel love, success and happiness.

In fact our true self requires nothing to feel complete. So who is this version of ourselves if not our true self that has such a need? Is there a way to recognize it for what it is, what we could change?

“Needing nothing attracts everything.

If you want to become full, let yourself be empty.

If you want to be reborn, let yourself die.

If you want to be given everything, give up everything.”

~Lao Tzu

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We are travelers

“We are travelers on a cosmic journey, stardust, swirling and dancing in the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment. It is a little parenthesis in eternity.”

Paulo Coelho

Presence II by Robert Bissel

I think this is beautiful and it is my inspiration today. Thank you for stopping for a moment, for taking the time, for reading, and for making this a precious moment. It is definitely one to write down in my book of 365 blank pages for 2021.

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A kind heart

Life is hard, no doubt, and in many cases out of our control, but not in all. Through the journey of life, I feel it’s the reaction to our experiences, and our thoughts that shape us and determine the amount of misery we subject ourselves to. Everybody is fighting an unheard battle we know nothing about. Add our own opinion to it and it can easily turn into judgement if we are not careful. Remembering this, we realize that beauty is skin deep and a kind heart over physical beauty is the measure of who we truly are.

During my career in the beauty business and running, managing a store, I have worked with many beautiful people. Sadly, beautiful on the outside only and beyond the facade on the inner levels was much ugliness to be found. I look back and recognize the battles they themselves must have fought. I don’t believe one just decides to be mean and full judgement. There are always greater forces at work. But I also believe that we have some control over our actions and the choice we make. An old quite comes to mind to put this into perspective.

“When you produce a thought that is full of understanding, forgiveness, and compassion, that thought will immediately have a healing effect on both your physical and mental health and on those around you.

If you think a thought that is full of judgement and anger, that thought will immediately poison your body and mind and the people.”

-Thich Nhat Hanh

Be good to yourself. You have more control than you think. 🙏🏼

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Owning the good, the bad and the ugly

Picture taken during Birthday Week.

You know the feeling, and does your heart close a little more when unpleasantries arrive? Perhaps you have put up a protective barrier up, a wall of some sort in the hopes that your feelings will never get hurt again? I know that I have in the past, but I also worked hard to break these barriers. What in the world would possess me to do so you might wonder! Why would I allow pain back into my life! For me it started with a choice and because I felt a prisoner in these walls, unable to let my true light shine, always feeling I was under conditional circumstances. Within those walls I ran the risk of losing myself, of becoming hard, negative, and a victim. The turning point was in deciding that this wasn’t me and that it wasn’t how I wanted to turn out. The realization came after some soul searching and a hefty amount of courage.

Fact is that there will always be an uphill battle of some sort. You barely succeed one and another challenge is lingering in the shadows, waiting for you to summon a strengths you never knew you had. Personally I have gone through a lot of these challenges, and I would have never imagined myself saying that I’m ok and at peace with these mountains I had to climb. Would I change some things or avoid these heart wrenching lessons all together…you bet, but in my experience it’s never in our control to do so. Would we even be who we are today if we could? If you can accept even the most of difficult of times, remember the pain, but don’t let if defy you, if you can be grateful for what you learned and the life experiences toy have gained, then you have defied the odds and a great wisdom and inner peace is yours.

I hope you can look back at these times, not feeling a victim of life, but proud of yourself to have made it through another battle. I hope that the pain has become manageable and you can see the lesson and the experience that was necessary. I hope you have grown stronger without letting life turn you negative, and that your frame of mind and outlook has stayed optimistic and hopeful. Because after all…

“If we own the story then we can write the ending.”

~Brene Brown

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The ache for home

“The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place we can go as we are and not be questioned.”

~Maya Angelou

I have lived torn between two countries for most of my life and it’s not easy. You always experience some kind of homesick, and it’s hard to answer where and what you call home. Mom always said “well you wanted it that way”, and it is what she believed since I was the one who left, but I know it’s not true and I couldn’t have imagined how hard one decision would spread over the term of a lifetime.

Home is where the heart is they say, and home can be anywhere, although you never forget where you came from and where your roots run deep. It’s understandable and yet sad to me that the EU has closed its borders to people coming from the US. I’m sure somehow I probably could get in being a German Citizen and having a house there, but it would be under strict guidelines and quarantine I’m sure. All understandable and yet for the first time it feels as if I can’t return to the place of my roots, home. For now at least.

In the end I believe that this quote is all encompassing and home truly is where you are accepted as you are and your heart finds peace. Where you are understood and not questioned. Home is a place where you can be and sometimes if you are lucky, a place where your tribe and likeminded people live. People you have something in common with, people who can value you and where you can contribute.

May we all have such a place, even if it is in more than one home. 🙏🏼