Posted in Feelings, Healing, Quotes

From the heart – always

“Never wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing. That’s what they need. ~Najwa Zebian

We all have been there. We all have been hurt by others, whether from a stranger, an acquaintance, a friend or loved one, we all have experienced what it feels like to have our feelings crushed. In that moment it seldom matters whether it was intentional or a mere misunderstanding, or something that just didn’t come out right. I’ve never been much like the eye for an eye person, or the one that has to retaliate. Of course I have been hurt and of course I have been angry when I found myself caught in the middle of whatever injustice came my way. I think it’s human for us to feel this way, but I have been practicing the above quote for a few years now. Am I perfect at it? No, of course not and there is always room to fine tune and expand further in our practices. However, it has taught me an increased compassion for others. An understanding that when someone acts from a place of hurt, it is usually because hurt is what is holding them in a tight grip. Often it’s a defense mechanism, sometimes an empowerment to make themselves feel better or superior, to justify that they matter and are important. Being able to recognize and practice this is rarely understood by others who might think something is wrong with you, but does it truly matter who understands and who doesn’t? Could you wish somebody well and healing who has just hurt you? You might be surprised if you consider it, for it will set you free. Maybe some things don’t deserve to be forgiven, but you will always be deserving of your own peace of mind and freedom. It’s always different when we act from our heart space rather than our mind space.

Posted in Awareness, Choices, Quotes

Being satisfied with your choice

The other day I stared down the bottom of my glass and this is the view I got. I thought it was kind of beautiful. It reminds me of the artist within me, earlier times and when I took a ton of picture of ordinary things that in my mind looked extraordinary. It takes me back to a time when I won a photo contest with a picture of a weed, and my own belief to always remember that beauty is all around us. That it lies in the eyes of the beholder and that it’s often the little things that touch our hearts in the biggest ways.

Behind it, was my Himalayan salt lamp, giving it a nice little glow, illuminating the center. I’ve always considered myself as a person that viewed the glass as half full versus half empty. I was proud of that, as it signaled a positive outlook. This glass and the view was definitely empty and I’m not sure where I am going with all of this, accept that despite it being empty, there was still beauty to be found. Maybe empty isn’t all that bad, scary, or negative as we thought it to be. Maybe there needs to be an empty so we are able to fill it anew with fresh goodness, replacing something that perhaps has become stale. I don’t know, I am just pondering this morning. Maybe it’s the quote that I stumbled across this morning that is further shaping my Perspective overhaul. God knows I am a sucker for a good quote. To me they are tiny bits of wisdom, lived through experiences, passed on with loving intentions, not just to be heard and share a part of us, but also to contribute and help others along the way. To me, quotes are reminders of something we already know at times but often forget. A long time ago I have sworn myself to not live a life filled with regrets. And yet we make mistakes. We all have regrets. We all wish soon or later that we could get one more chance to hear the voice of a deceased loved one. That we could do some things over, take back words, live with more awareness and be more in the moment. Even if we manage to make drastic changes, we need to realize that there will be glitches. When we slip and when things are less than perfect. Today I remind myself with this quote and a prayer to embody it as often as possible.

“Speak to people in a way that if they died the next day, you’d be satisfied with the last thing you said to them.”

Posted in Awareness, Inspiration, Quotes

Thoughts and ponderings

I often find myself discussing topics of pain and struggle. Not always because they relate to my current situation unless I refer directly to myself, but because I have spend so much time there. I often write about things I have already learned, but these post are not meant to provide the solutions that might have been a perfect fit for me, but inspire and motivate your own ideas and to find your own fit.

I’ve had plenty of time feeling, thinking, suffering and clinging on to hope myself, that I feel a need to share and hopefully help others. In the process of it I have learned that everything has it’s place, and yes it is pain that teaches and shows us places within that we would never see otherwise. My point is “how to we live and learn to coexist with these struggles when they can be so debilitating!” Sharing these thoughts and experiences is a worthwhile cause to me and I always say that if it helps one person only, it is one life helped, and one life saved.

It is said that our thoughts create our reality. Further we are urged to be careful what we wish for because it could become our truths. It is said that we are the co-creators of our life. So perhaps we shouldn’t just sit still and let it pass us by. It is said that an echo returns to us what we send out. It provides a unique opportunity for us to be heard. To be heard by ourselves. The same happens with Karma and what we plant, we reap as in the seeds that we sow. All these are wonderful causes and reason enough to be on our best behavior. Not just because it’s the right thing to do, but because it’s the humane thing, the stuff of role models, and what Karma brings to us in return. I wonder if we could prevent bad things from happening, simply by changing our outlook on life and what we think? It’s an interesting theory and personally I believe that an optimistic person will always live an easier life, despite of the challenges and the ups and downs we all experience. I also realize that this outlook doesn’t aways succeed and sometimes it is torn down, especially when you are in pain and can’t see past it. A poem like the one below might seem out of reach in these times, but perhaps we can see and recognize that silent cry. Maybe we even manage to choose it in a moment of darkness for our turning point.

“I am smiling at myself today. There is no wish left in this heart. Or perhaps there is no heart left. Free from all desire, I sit quietly like earth. My silent cry echoes like thunder throughout the universe. I am not worried about it, I know it will be heard by no one except me.”

~Rumi

Posted in Life, My story, Quotes

More than skin deep

Today’s pondering comes courtesy of Morgan Harper Nichols with a quote about beauty and a picture of myself that dates back a few years. Beauty is always deeper than what meets the eye initially. Beauty comes in layers and is something that is felt as well as seen. Beauty takes time to develop and takes experiences.

Sometimes I miss my dark strands, now replaced by ever growing more and more silver fairy, or what I call silver fox hair. But that isn’t really the point here and the message in the quote delivers a much deeper meaning. So without further ado, here it is.

“And perhaps what made her beautiful was not her appearance or what she achieved, but in her love and in her courage, and her audacity to believe no matter the darkness around her. Light ran wild within her, and that was the way she came alive, and it showed up in everything.”

Posted in Life lessons, Poetry, Quotes

The Guest House

For many years I have struggled with how hard it is to plan for anything. When you have chronic pain, no two days are alike and you never know how your day is going to be until you wake up in the morning. Sometimes you’re blessed and it’s easier to manage, other times it takes a longer start to get going, and yet other times you can’t seem to get going period. Just recently I posted about the Pain body and how it reached havoc in my days for some time now. From there one of my followers shared “The Guest House” from Jalaluddin Rumi with me and it was divine timing as I had never heard it. Thank you John. I related with it so much, and it mirrored my own journey of trying to Embrace the rain as well as the pain. Rumi reminds us to acknowledge whoever shows up in the morning and to be grateful, for everything has meaning and a place. Yep, even when it hurts like hell and when it doesn’t make sense like so often. You may also take comfort in knowing that God’s and the Universe’s soldiers, it’s healers and light workers will always carry heavier burdens. Simply because they can handle them although it doesn’t seem fair. Still someone needs to share the light and bring those messages to others to inspire and help. This is exactly what I’m trying to do today and thank you to John who has shared it with me, I now share The Guest House with you.

The Guest House by Rumi

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of it’s furniture, still treat each guest honorable. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.,

~Rumi

Posted in Inspiration, Manifesting, Quotes

Wise words by Osho

Have you heard of Osho? Surely you must have and perhaps you too relate to much of his wisdom. There quotes recently found their way into my life. Perhaps at a time when I needed to hear them since I don’t believe n coincidences. Today, I feel compelled to share them with you, or at least write them out here for future reference.

The first one is all about self love. Of being comfortable in your own skin. Of facing some fears and perhaps his one relates to many of us. Here it is…

“First become alone. First start enjoying yourself. First love yourself. First become so authentically happy that it nobody comes it doesn’t matter; you are full, overflowing. If nobody knocks at your door it is perfectly okay – you are not missing. You are not waiting for somebody to come and knock at the door. You are at home. If somebody comes, good, beautiful. If nobody comes, that too is beautiful and good. Then move into relationship. Now you move like a master, not like a beggar. Now you move like an emperor, not like a beggar.”

The second one is all about contentment. Of going with the flow. Of dropping expectations. Of letting go of control, of being at peace. Here it is…

“Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand – relax. If you relax, it comes. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it.”

The last one goes back to self love. To forgiveness and taking a leap of faith challenging the status quo and everything you have learned in life. It’s an undoing, an unlearning, a chance to summon your courage and follow your own truth. Here it is…

“Accept yourself as you are. And that is the most difficult thing in the world, because it goes against your training, education, your culture. From the very beginning you have been told how you should be. Nobody has ever told you that you are good as you are.”

I hope somebody needed to read these today. Read them slowly, see how they apply and then forge your plan and general outline. Know in your heart where you want to go. Visualize it and see it. Notice a smile gracing your face as you see it. Hold on to it and give thanks as if it happened already. And now surrender and let go. 🙏🏼💙

Posted in Quotes, Wisdom

Eliminating distraction

Distractions are all around us and sometimes too much of a good thing is simply too much. You might wonder what this black and white photograph has to do with it and I’m merely using it as a simple example. You see, in my case it actually looked better when I stripped it of its color. I saw more in the monotone range, including the light and the shadows of the subject. The stark contrast of what needed to stand out and the soft disappearing of subjects in the background that needed to fade away.

I don’t know why it spoke to me in a quote, in the process of elimination and the concept of less is more. Par for my course and journey so far I suppose. Perhaps a sign that I am in track.

“And sometimes the simplicity of black and white is all that is needed to eliminate the distraction.”

~Rhapsody Bohème

Keep it simple and don’t add more elements that you can handle. Even dreaming in color is sometimes too much. What can you eliminate today?

🙏🏼💙

Posted in Inspiration, Quotes

Quotes and random musings

Picture: Google

Food for thought. Actions and reactions. Give and take. Cause and effect. Being a sucker for quotes, they always seem to find me at the right time, speaking their magic meaning, often leaving me reassured, at times pondering, and sometimes on the heels of revelations and aha moments. I never heard it quite like this when it comes to the quote below, but I find truths between those lines and I’m sure we each have a little Story to tell.

“Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you.”

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This post has been scheduled for over a week now and I feel the need to edit and add to it a little. While I still believe in much of it’s content, I have learned a few things in the past week. When I read the quote now, there is a deeper meaning that emerges. A meaning that tells me that a statement like this comes from trauma, a previous experience that has left a wound, a scar if you will. Because of this scar and the fear to experience this pain again, a warning is given to be careful of what you tolerate, putting the responsibility and the burden into your corner as if it was entirely up to you what follows next. Is it really all within your control, the control we urge ourselves so often to let go of? And is it fair to place such burdens onto ourselves? Surely everything has it’s limits, no different when it comes to this quote, but my main goal here would be not to let my experiences define me and harden my heart. Not to be obsessed with having control and the upper hand, but to trust and believe in the good of every situation, even if it has challenges attached.

What do you think?

Posted in Life, Quotes, Wisdom

The need for more need

Morning dew was evaporating during the first sunlight on this peaceful and serene day. A moment so simple, filled with minimalism and yet it was so profound, peaceful. I could feel it breathing calm and serenity into my existence as a deep sigh left my body. “This is what it’s all about isn’t it” I thought to myself.

Next came the realization of the exact opposite and our need for needing. If this felt so serene and peaceful, why was there even a need for more? And still, it seems like we have all found ourselves in that position before. Whether it is needing material things, affection, love, understanding, to be heard, a friend, a shoulder to lean on or whatever else, it’s part of the human condition.

We all have needs and if those needs are not met, we eventually start to question things. Often it is feeding our need that can produce the effect of making us feel better, when in actuality it is only a temporary solution, a bandaid so to say. You’ve heard of retail therapy for example. Perhaps even having a drink to forget. But isn’t reality always catching up with us, soon or later?

Recently I’ve read that needing is a state of the ego. That the ego tries to convince us that we are empty and need something to feel love, success and happiness.

In fact our true self requires nothing to feel complete. So who is this version of ourselves if not our true self that has such a need? Is there a way to recognize it for what it is, what we could change?

“Needing nothing attracts everything.

If you want to become full, let yourself be empty.

If you want to be reborn, let yourself die.

If you want to be given everything, give up everything.”

~Lao Tzu