The sweetest love, and every woman’s secret longing and dream

“He is 85 and insists on taking his wife hand in hand wherever they go.

When I asked why your wife is distracted, like she wasn’t following anyone? He replied: She has Alzheimer’s…

So I said, will your wife worry if you let her go? He replied, “She doesn’t remember…She doesn’t know who I am anymore, she hasn’t recognized me for years.”

Surprised, I said “And still you continue to guide the way even though she doesn’t recognize you.”

The elderly man smiled and looked into my eyes. He said “She doesn’t know who I am, but I know who she is.”

“SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!” 💙

How sweet is that? Simply priceless. How many of you have seen the movie “The notebook”? It’s what it reminds me of.

I am not asking

Frida Kahlo told her husband, “I’m not asking you to kiss me, nor apologize to me when I think you’re wrong. I won’t even ask you to hug me when I need it most. I don’t ask you to tell me how beautiful I am, even if it’s a lie, nor write me anything beautiful. I won’t even ask you to call me to tell me how your day went, nor tell me you miss me. I won’t ask you to thank me for everything I do for you, nor to care about me when my soul is down, and of course, I won’t ask you to listen to me when I have a thousand stories to tell you. I won’t ask you to do anything, not even be by my side forever. Because if I have to ask you, I don’t want it anymore.”

An awakened Man

This picture is a few years old and was taken on the coastline at Highway 1, in California. A young couple, just married, was having their pictures taken from a professional photographer as we strolled along to visit the nearby lighthouse.

Sneaky me, got a few shots of my own, recording their special day. Later, this would leave me thinking that I wished I could have sent those pictures to their rightful owners. Surely they would love to have them as they were taken from slightly different angles to not interfere. I’m sure the professional pictures were killer, but mine weren’t all that bad either. And can you truly ever have enough pictures of your best friend, your soulmate, the one you love and sealed your forever with, especially on a day like this? I think not. Today, an amazing quote came along and this picture found it’s way back into my day. It turned out to be a perfect pairing, and it feels as if this picture that I took so many years ago, has finally found it’s purpose and meaning for me. What do you think?

An awakened man is a warrior of the heart. He calls to other conscious men to join the revolution, to lay down their ego, and with true masculine energy, demonstrate what it means to return to love.

~Daniel Nielsen

Being in Love by Osho

Love and dream necklace made by me for my Etsy shop. Youniqua.etsy.com

According to Osho, the capacity to be alone is the capacity to love.

It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person – without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.

It makes sense and yet we might find it written on paper a lot easier said than actually done. I think there are many bridges we need to cross, learning about ourselves and being comfortable with ourselves before we can even grasp this concept. It’s a little like the old saying goes “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it was always meant to be.”

I think until then, until we reach that very point in our thinking and behaving, we have shed many layers of false identities. Behaviors and actions that no longer serve us have fallen to the wayside and no longer matter. All these layers have left behind our most vulnerable self, out true self that many are so afraid of revealing. I think many believe it needs to be protected at all cost, protected out of fear of getting hurt and taken advantage of. But to what kind of cost, what kind of madness are we actually willing to go to sacrifice our true self, and for what? What fears cause us to hold on to those false layers? I do know the answer, and it might be slightly different from person to person, but it is very similar, always sounding a familiar theme.

In my own experience, I have learned that the most inner core, our true self, the part we have protected with our life and which we believe is our most vulnerable being, is actually the strongest part of ourselves. Just think about all that had to happen for you reach that part and all the strengths it required to do so. What you have experienced with each layer you have shed, and all the emotions and feelings behind it, good and bad. Perhaps you will agree that to your most vulnerable being, holds pure freedom and wisdom for you, will always give you a different sense of protection and strengths, and will teach you to enjoy your own company at a different level without reducing others but seeing them as a gift in your life.

My wish for you

Today I sit here, thinking of you, which I actually do quite frequently, but today there is information entering my mind, things and thoughts I want to share with you.

Last Sunday night I had a tough time falling asleep. I must have tossed and turned for several hours before finally drifting off into dreamland. The next morning I woke and noticed that I was only wearing one of my copper gloves. I wear those to help with the arthritis pain and they do soothe and comfort me, reducing the amount of stiffness I feel in the morning when getting up. I did write about the benefits before and if you have any questions, please just ask. They are amazing and have made a world of difference for me.

Anyways, I don’t remember taking one glove off at night and tugging it under my pillow, but somehow I must have. It never happened before though. Monday, I had a friend ask me when I was doing my meditation because he wanted to join. We agreed on a time and at the comment we started an owl came to visit and joined us. I felt a distinct difference during my meditation and there was a heightened sense of calm and stillness. I felt so comfortable, surrounded by love, warmth, and just perfect, I didn’t want to stop. It felt powerful and healing and I meditated longer than usual.

Tuesday came and with it a message that on Monday April 20th was the day the new earth ascension blueprint was downloaded into Mother Earth and all of humanity. It was stated that if you had trouble sleeping Sunday night, you most likely tuned into the preparations for this moment. It was also said that you might notice a change in energy, in your surrounds or yourself and that everything was different and yet the same. It made perfect sense to me as we all received a piece of the energy that is unique to us. Today I wonder if you felt something similar you might not be able to explain. Maybe this will shed some light, but most of all I hope you are ok. Today this post goes out with a wish for you, wherever you are. Be safe and know you are loved.

I hope you are doing good and things are ok for you.

I hope you are finding sanity when things are crazy.

I hope you find stillness when you feel like screaming.

I hope you see the glass half full even when precious resources trickle away.

I hope you never forget what the sunshine feels like even when darkness holds you within it’s grip.

I hope you learn to dance in the rain and your optimism never fails you.

I hope you never forget how special you are and to someone you are the best thing ever.

I hope you are patient with yourself and you are quick to forgive yourself, because you are doing the best you can.

I hope you find more ways to smile than ways to frown.

I hope you love with all your heart and your heart chakra is wide open.

I hope you never give up and that you get up more times than you have fallen.

I hope you never forget that you can do it no matter how tough things get, because nothing lasts and this too shall pass.

I hope you share a smile with a stranger because a smile is a beautiful thing to gift to someone.

I hope you take the time to be good to yourself because you truly deserve it.

In love and light 🙏🏼❤️

For all my sweet Valentine’s

Picture taken from google

It’s Valentine’s Day, a day to send extra hugs and kisses out to all of you. I love you all and thank you for all the kindness you have shown me and for your support on this blog site that marks my personal journey.

Valentine’s Day is so much more and first became associates with romantic love within the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the 14th century, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. In the 18th century England, it grew into an occasion in which couples expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionary, and other gifts of affection.

I found a little story about Valentine’s Day amongst the numerous stories associated and connected to February 14th. One such story is a written account of Saint Valentine of Rome’s imprisonment for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians persecuted under the Roman Empire. According to legend, Saint Valentine restored sight to the blind daughter of his judge, and wrote her a letter signed “your Valentine” as farewell before his execution. The feast of Saint Valentine was established by Pope Gelasuis in AD 496 to be celebrated on February 14 in honor of the Christian martyr, Saint Valentine of Rome, who died on that date in AD 269.

Whatever this day may mean to you, whether you celebrate it or not, whether you have that significant other by your side to shower with your love and affection, or whether you find yourself longing for that special someone, today and always please know that you are loved, appreciated and needed. ❤️🙏🏼

Do soulmates exist?

Mom spent the majority of her life alone, in solitude, within her own four walls. After the early accidental death of my father, she ventured out a few times trying to connect with someone but it never worked out. People often wondered why she choose to spend her life alone, she was still so young and had the majority of her life ahead of herself. I would say that my Dad set the bar pretty high with the way he loved her. She knew exactly what she wanted, what she was used to and wasn’t she wasn’t willing compromise. I believe that he was her soulmate. That she couldn’t accept less and as sweet as it may sound, it also was heartbreaking because it left her alone for the rest of her life.

So what is a soulmate?

A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet. A connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong, and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior.

So what is this post about and what am I saying?

I say that she didn’t choose to be alone. She simply chose to love herself more. It required her to be the love of her own life because nobody cane along to fulfill that position.

I believe in soulmates, and that connection that is a knowing deep inside, a comfort that is soothing and doesn’t require words and explanations. I believe it starts with chemistry, something familiar yet exciting. A place we call home, that nourishes our comfort and well being. It doesn’t need to be justified or explained, it is something you feel. I believe that we all chase this kind of love and it’s something we all want. In the process of it and while setting our own standards, we should remember that nothing is ever perfect. Even soulmates are a work in progress as you learn about each other and grow together.

And although I understand Mom’s decision and the reasons behind it, I can’t help but wonder if her expectations perhaps where set too high. So the moral of this post is to give yourself and each other a break. Nobody is perfect and if you are willing to put in the work, you will feel that eventually you will have the perfect ending after all.

Our purpose on earth

Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is essential reality and our purpose on earth.

Little Sexy and Cute things to do today! ;) xoxo

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Here is a little extra today with a post from my friend at glitzyritzymommy.com. How could I pass this up? After all we are starting the new decade with some amazing new energy and here is a little fun to add.

In case you have never visited her blog, please be sure to stop by and say hi. You won’t regret it and she has a beautiful and amazing voice in our community. ❤️

Eternal / Unconditional Love

Eternal / Unconditional love, a forever home, a soul connection. We all want it and yet so few of us find it.

In order to make a relationship last, you really have to flow with a person as they change. We are not the same as we were ten years ago and we are constantly changing. There a choices and changes that happen all the time, and some of us might say that we have grown, while others may choose to stay in their comfort zone of the familiar and the known. This can become difficult within a relationship, and even cause separation when we don’t see eye to eye anymore.

How do we make it work?

Give them space. I recently heard of a couple that was together 60 years before she passed. Her husband said that throughout their time together his wife had changed so much that it felt like he had been with eight different people by the end. But he also said that the secret to making it last was that throughout all these changes, he never suffocated his wife with his own idea of who he expected her to be.

Rather he loved, fully, every woman she became. ❤️