Posted in Empath, Life

The mirror effect

Many will say that being an empath can be a blessing as well as a curse. I have written about it myself, sharing my experiences as an empath and it’s true that it’s not always easy.

I came to read about the mirror effect from the minds journal which describes it a little more. Their take is that an empath is a person who picks up on other people’s emotions and energy, hidden behaviors and true personality traits. Empath’s can take them on and project the emotions back to their rightful owner. This can be very intimidating for the owner leaving them feeling bare and exposed. The facade, the wall that was so carefully created to hide that true self weakens in the presence of an empath which can feel uncomfortable. Perhaps uncomfortable for both sides.

Empath’s can wear other people’s truth and energy just like a mask that they hide behind, even if the person is unaware of what they are projecting. Anything that is hidden and painful, not to be exposed and put on the butchers block for evaluation and chopping. It brings vulnerability and fear of judgement. These hidden things include a person insecurity, shame, suppressed guilt or anger. The longer these feelings are suppressed / hidden, the longer this energy stays buried.

An empath will expose the shadow side of someone, seeing those traits that are often so carefully protected. Protected to the extent of becoming a different person, wearing a mask to hide the true self. All these are reason as to why there can be an instant dislike towards an empath. The stars literally have to align to feel comfortable in the presence of an empath. It’s one thing not being ready to face our faults and work on our shadow self, and it’s yet another to be truly seen by another, in all our glory, faults and shortcomings included.

If this has been your experience, it could be a sign that you are reflecting back to them the truth that they deny. Remembering such may help you to understand and not blame yourself for the gift you’ve been given.

Posted in Empath, Life

Being sensitive

Being sensitive comes with risks, perhaps a broken heart.

Being sensitive takes courage.

Being sensitive is laying your feelings on the line, carrying your heart on your sleeves for all the world to see, and decide how to treat it. It’s something you surrender to because their is little control over the outcome.

Back in the days when outside opinions mattered more, pushing me to conform to expectations and norms, being sensitive scared me. I disliked it and thought of the world perceiving me as weak. Today I would say that it is the opposite, and that it takes a strong heart to take this step.

Today I have long accepted that being sensitive is my strengths. Take away that single trait, and you take away the very essence of who I am. You take away my conscience, my ability to emphasize and feel, my intuition and creativity, my deep appreciation for the little things, my vivid inner life, the big kid in me, my dreams, awareness of other’s pain, and my passion for it all. Very little would remain, leaving an empty shell, a lifeless self.

I can’t pay such a price.

Posted in Empath, Inspiration

Taking care

Here is a message from the tiny Buddha that is relevant for all of us at some point. We all have given so much and sometimes more of ourselves then possible, by caring about others. This includes putting ourselves last in the process of it.

We have given to a point that has left us feeling exhausted and worn. To a point that made us so tired and even overwhelmed at times. Mentally drained, it’s a feeling as if the life was literally sucked out of you. There are times we try so hard to help another that we forget and not immediately realize the toll it can have on us.

This is a reminder to do the best you can to keep a healthy balance. For it is an admirable thing that your heart is so big and loves to help whenever it can, but it also needs love and tender care and can’t give all the time. Sometimes you have to listen inward and tend to your own needs. Not because you don’t want to help, but because you are no help to anyone unless you are well yourself.

How do you do that, especially if you are an empath? I know, your compassion is so great and you care so very deeply, aren’t you. How could you not! It’s the core of your big heart and all it has ever known. As an empath you absorb the energies around you, through the people you engage with and the situations you find ourselves in. Being compassionate and helpful is a given for an empath, but taking on and owning the energies that don’t really belong to us is something to be learned and to be separated. Bringing awareness to why you feel drained will help you determine if it is your energy or the result from encountering a situation or someone else’s low. Awareness of your thoughts and emotions are the key to the power of now and will help you separate these highs and lows.

Namaste 🙏🏼

Posted in Empath, Inspiration, Life


This post is for you, the empath, the one who feels so deeply and sometimes doesn’t know if your gift is a blessing or a curse. May this post help, and perhaps shed a different view onto your unique gift. May it let it sigh with gratitude and a better understanding. You are blessed.

So what about it? Opinions…we all got one and who is to say one is right over the other? I guess it comes down to…well, opinions and how YOU feel about something.

In an opinion/quote by Bill Bullard he says that the opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world.

I applaud you if you are able to do this. Sure it’s painful sometimes and you absorb a lot of negative energy, but you can also learn to protect yourself and disconnect from that energy. Have you ever encountered someone, it seemed impossible that they could suspend their ego and how did you feel about it?

Posted in Anxiety, Empath, Spirituality


You already know how hard it can be to be an empath. You already know that it can be a blessing and a curse. It can bring along great comfort and a feeling of helping others, it may give you a sense of belonging and contributing, but it can also bring anxiety and disturb your inner peace. There is no running from it and you can’t just turn it off. You hear the unspoken and you pick up on the energies around you. Sometimes I’m sure you wished not to know because there lies a comfort in the bliss of less information. Not knowing allows your world to be ok, undisturbed by worries and the actions that often have to follow. It is a delicate balance, a balance that if wanting to be achieved calls for ways to protect yourself from the negative aspects. There is much to be learned about yourself, such as which are your emotions, and which belong to others. Once determined allows you to carry great compassion, to see and guide, but to also protect yourself. You will find that there is not a one fits all process and each situation and person will be different, so try to stay flexible and adjust. Know not only the burdens of this ability, but also recognize the gift you’ve been bestowed on.

The shamanic Quechuan word for empath is “Qawaq” which means “one who sees” living energy. The Incas believe that people born with the ability to experience the energy of others have a great blessing as they are able to connect to their souls and the spirit of existence much more easily than others.

Seize your blessings. ❤️

Posted in Anxiety, Empath, Soul

You beautiful, brave soul

Picture taken from Pinterest

Dear brave one,

Your heart has been broken a thousands of times. You carry the scars of the past on your beautiful body, but many are often visible only to yourself. It is your love and passion that holds you together like sticky glue and prevents you from falling apart completely. You are unique, unapologetic, a beautiful mess of perfectly imperfect perfection, a warrior and a wild child, searching for a place to breathe, a sanctuary where you can just be.

Are you asking too much you wonder? Are your dreams fueled with the desires of your passion unrealistic and too far fetched? Is it all just wishful thinking, made up of the stories that only exist in fairytales?

Let me tell you that you are perfect in every way. You are not too emotional and you are not too sensitive. The strings of your emotions are pulled by bittersweet memories. A past that has taught you many lessons, but a past that is not your future, and a past that has definitely not defined you.

I know your heart is constantly at war with all of your emotions, each one fighting to be dominant. In confusion it distorts your reality to the point where everything becomes questionable. You put forward your best foot in a fight between the ego that rules your thoughts, and the heart that begs you to take a leap of faith and just trust the process. But you are stuck on repeat in this vicious cycle that never seems to have any answers, a hamster wheel that has you coming back over and over, to peddle faster and faster to not fall off. Time passes, perhaps even years go by as you grow weary and tired. What you would give for the noise to stop, to make it all go away, but still you haven’t managed to stop feeling. You find yourself amidst the never ending circle of an empath, ruled by so many feelings and outside influences.

You know the pains of such when you pick up on the energies of others. You feel when they’re happy, sad, angry, fake, and truthful. Without a spoken word, you know when they are using you and when they are being genuine.

You are not weak. You’re gifted with the ability of heightened intuition. It is said that it can be a blessing and a curse until you learn to protect yourself and surround yourself with those that bring out the best in you and not the stress in you.

Your anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of, and you carry a load much heavier than most. It’s a reminder that you have the gift of empathy. Not many possess this rare treat because it takes a special kind of individual to be as genuinely compassionate as you are. Your kindness is your strengths, not your weakness. Your open heart is love incarnate, and one of the most beautiful things in this world. Accept your blessings and own who you are. You have a beautiful, brave soul.

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The shamanic Quechuan word for empath is “Qawaq” which means “one who sees” living energy. The Incas believe that people born with the ability to experience the energy of others have a great blessing as they are able to connect to their souls and spirits of existence much more easily than others.

Luna & Sol


Posted in Empath, Enlightenment, Inspiration

To feel deeply or not at all

The world of an empath is challenging and rewarding at the same time. A healthy balance is key, and solitude is needed to retreat and charge your batteries when your light is getting dim.

I’ve had plenty of times thinking that I have felt just a little too much. That it was a curse to get involved too deeply, feeling everything as if it was happening to me directly, picking up the pain and hardship of others while it was draining my own energy away. But would it be better not to feel at all? What an empty shell would we be without our feelings and compassion. Without the opportunities to make a difference for others and do good in this world.

There is little control in adjusting the level of how much you want to feel. It’s either all or nothing and an empath has no choice. It’s draining as you pick up the unspoken energy of society and the world around you. You easily sense vibes and moods without even trying, no matter how much someone wants to conceal those emotions. You smell a lie and excuse a mile away. Not much gets by you which in turn can be intimidating to others. Most likely you can’t stand gossip as it brings disruption and turmoil into your life.

Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath that is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a “hot mess” or having “too many issues” are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.

~Anthon St. Maarten

Posted in Empath, Feelings

The Empath Diaries

I am complicated,

yet simple at the same time.

I need my books, my writing, my music,

my space alone; at times.

As well, I tend to think too much and over analyze.

I can come across as shy, snobbish,

even tongue tied but that’s ok.

I am just quiet, an observer, a listener,

and idle chat is not my forte.

I am goofy, funny, witty, playful, like all the rest,

cept reserve this for those that understand me best.

I don’t need expensive things

or fancy places to stay.

I adore the small, little things,

and prefer the outdoors and nature

to a 5 star abode, any given day.

I am fiercely intense, passionate,

loyal, independent, and do not need

anyone to take care of me;

but I do need someone to care for and to be there for me.

I am complicated, yet simple at the same time.