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The Rebellion of the black sheep

Art by the amazing Sophie Wilkins

“Rebellion can make us feel ostracized from the group, turning us into the black sheep of our family or community. But the black sheep are the artists, visionaries and healers of our culture, because they are the ones willing to call into question those places which feel stale, obsolete, or without integrity.

The black sheep stirs up the good kind of trouble. Her/his very life is a confrontation with all that has been assumed as tradition. Her/him being different serves to bring the family or group to consciousness where it has been living too long in the dark. As the idiom implies, she is the wayward one in the flock. Her life’s destiny is to stand apart. But paradoxically, it’s only when honors that apartness that she finally fits in.

The world needs your rebellion and the true song of your exile. In what has been banned from your life, you find a medicine to heal all that has been kept from the world. We must find the place within where things have been muted and give that a voice. Until those things are spoken, no truth can find its way forward. The world needs your unbelonging. It needs your disagreements, your exclusion, your ache to tear the false constructions down, to find the world behind this one.”

It was this very excerpt from the Book “Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home” by Toko-pa Turner which actually made me order it. It spoke to me on so many levels and it is not the first time that I have written about the black sheep. I loved reading about her perspective on the subject and see it in a different view as all too often the black sheep is perceived as someone who is difficult, a little extra, a little hard to handle. But what makes them a little extra, a little difficult and hard to handle? Perhaps it is because they know, see and feel too much, often challenging things that feel out of alignment. To another, not yet willing to confront these issues, this behavior must feel overwhelming and daunting. Perhaps even so stressful that they avoid contact at all or at least minimize it. The black sheep in return often can’t realize or understand the inner working of such dynamic and begins to feel like an outcast, like being punished. It appears like another prime example of prime timing and how fragile, detailed and perfect everything has to be between all involved for life to unfold in a perfect manner. There will always be misunderstandings, different opinions, different points on our journey that will lead to different realities. But what a beautiful description to view the black sheep from a new and much more positive angle.

I am sure that many of you will relate and feel or have felt like this at one point of your journey. Remember that your special gift is needed in the quest of authenticity, uniqueness and finding the world behind this one. And remember that if you ever felt like you are not fitting into this world, it is because you were chosen to help create a new one. So go ahead and inspire on, you are amazing just the way you are.


We are the co-creators of our life and the time is now. More than ever are we needed to support Mother Earth and each other. Together we discover and explore our unique gifts in times of strengths, in times we lean on each other, and in times when we learn from each other. This blog started as an outlet and what I ultimately called my “Warriors Journey.” It was a way to document the ups and downs of my life, sharing my hardships as well as my successes. It showcased the struggles, but more important the ways of how to overcome them. Although we are warriors each and every day, I realized that having to be a warrior, comes from a place of pain. I decided to rename this blog, and “Phoenix Rising” now stands for the story of overcoming such a painful place. My motivation for this blog hasn’t changed and I hope to share inspiration and hope, to create a sense of belonging, a space of being heard, and connecting with like minded beings who instill a sense of oneness. We are never alone, and we are unstoppable in the pursuit of what sets our soul on fire. Who I am in a nutshell... 
I am an energy healer and Reiki Master. I am surviving a chronic disease that I’ve sent into remission three times since my initial bout, 15 years ago. I continuously challenge the status quo and by doing so I change my stars. I am a believer that anything is possible. I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that true love exists on various levels. I am an optimist that will always see the glass as half full. I am a dreamer, believing in endless possibilities. Not even the sky is the limit. I have jumped off of the hamster wheel, and I am writing a new chapter. I am chasing my Nirvana to support my most authentic self. This is my story, I am that Phoenix and I am rising from the ashes. Namaste 🙏🏼💙🦋

11 thoughts on “The Rebellion of the black sheep

  1. And sometimes too bright a light, confronting the many because of what we are/believe and dares others to question themselves. Great post dear lady, you are stepping into you and it too will be confronting until you can finally accept and allow what you are 😀❤️🙏🏽

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    1. Allowing, accepting and coming to love all that that I am, unconditionally, has been a most valuable lesson for me. Maybe every once in awhile a hold pattern still hangs on and is stubborn to beat, but I am in such a better place now than I have been and im very grateful for it. 🙏🏼💙

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    1. Yes, you and me both. If we had only known those things then, but perhaps we wouldn’t have understood them back then and they wouldn’t have touched us the way they do now in hindsight.
      Much love to you dear sister. Xo

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    1. You are wrong here but still I appreciate your opinion, your insight and perception, but I don’t think I need a prompt to find out about myself. I am objective enough and my own best teacher when it comes to my experiences. And these are far beyond social media and its barriers. 🤗

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      1. Thank you for replying. You’re on sabbatical from your blog, or something like that, and so pardon my impatience. I take it you read the poem I sent a link to, “Listen to My Dog.” The prompts are a link to a book I’ve just finished posting on my other blog.

        I can sure sound pretentious sometimes. I’m 61 and still haven’t got the ego thing right, but I’m working on it. Please don’t dismiss the book because I didn’t word my comment correctly. A lot of what your About’s about my book’s about, not exactly, and not everything, but you like books, are a dog mom, a shaman, and I can continue.

        I think you might find things of importance in that book, in regards to your interests, that you haven’t found before, and they might test you. I know that sounds a bit condescending and like a brag, but I’m really not bragging or talking down to you. I’m telling the truth. You have never read a book like it. It is a book though, and would take reading more than the intro to get into it:


  2. There’s a circle here I’m trying to get across. It has to do with oneness, wholeness, and you. Are you with me on that? Be kind to commenters. Let their voices be heard too, if they have something to say. If they challenge you want them; oh you want them. It’s that growth cycle you’re talking about, facing pain and all that. You live up to your word and all that you say you are. This is important today, you know?


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