Today I am revisiting the ups and downs of Anger. I have written about it a few times, even in my struggles with Mom. Now with quite some time that has passed, new knowledge is coming forward when it comes to dealing with anger. Perhaps we can see it from a different viewpoint that helps us understand and validate it better. Perhaps we can see it from a healthier perspective.
I heard a statement about anger that triggered further pondering. In that statement we were reminded that anger is a part of ourselves that knows that we have been mistreated and that abuse is unacceptable. We are reminded that anger knows that we deserve to be treated well, and with kindness. Our anger is a part of ourselves that loves us and usually surfaces during times of injustice. We can recognize it as a friend that is watching out for us and who has our back.
Usually during those times when we encounter anger, we deflect and direct it towards the one (s) that caused us to feel this way. We might even entertain thoughts of getting even and retaliating. But it might be interesting to look even deeper. Why did we feel these intense feelings of anger? Could it be that something inside of ourselves is broken and needs attention? A wound that was triggered that hasn’t fully healed yet. Could we see this incident as an opportunity to do so and make ourself whole instead of lashing out and thinking of payback? Could the rage of our anger be reduced if we remembered that it is a part of ourselves, a part that loves us, a part that is looking out for us and which is trying to protect us.