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Chasing Happiness

Today I am thinking about happiness and some thoughts come to mind. Over the years I have known a great many souls chasing after happiness, trying so hard to find it, and often associating another person with it as if it was dependent on that person to provide such sought happiness. The dictionary defines happiness as a mental or emotional state of well-being that is characterized by pleasant emotions. A contentment, joy, a pleasurable or satisfying experience. It is a mind-body connection, aspects of our physical body that affects our mood, our way of thinking, our environment, and external factors.

But how do we, ourselves, define happiness in our words, in our feelings, for us? Is it the same for everyone or does it depend on the person? What is the meaning of happiness, is it the spice of life, the ultimate goal and achievement? Perhaps defining happiness and getting to the root of it is pointing out everything that is not happiness in our life. If we don’t feel joy, and anxiety or even depression lingers, perhaps this is a good way to start. What if those things that don’t bring joy were removed? Would we feel happier? Is the choice up to us to remove these things and take that first step? I know it’s easier said than done, but that choice is always ours. It’s just that until that choice and decision is made, much has to happen and that is different from person to person. From different tolerance levels, to patience being a virtue or not, to being stubborn, hot headed and egotistical, having to work up the courage, to believing in yourself and loving yourself, it all plays a vital role on the journey to that moment.

The other day I read by an unknown source that ironically enough, when we make peace with the fact that the purpose of life is not happiness, but rather experience and growth, happiness comes as a natural byproduct. In other words, when you aren’t seeking it as the objective, it will find its way to you. So maybe the objective is hidden in our experiences. To gather lessons as life long students. To learn and to grow wise from these moments that teach us and ever so slowly mold us into our highest version of self. Perhaps it is recognizing the process, these moments, where we find our content, where we realize that everything always happens in it’s own divine timing. Maybe it is then, in that moment when we’ve made peace that calm and serenity surrounds us. Where we know that everything is as it should be. Where we accept and allow, live and let live, even when things are not perfect yet in our perception. They always are, it’s just that lessons still need to be learned, wounds still need to be healed, triggers still need to be disarmed.

Wishing you happiness and contentment. In light and love, always.


We are the co-creators of our life and the time is now. More than ever are we needed to support Mother Earth and each other. Together we discover and explore our unique gifts in times of strengths, in times we lean on each other, and in times when we learn from each other. This blog started as an outlet and what I ultimately called my “Warriors Journey.” It was a way to document the ups and downs of my life, sharing my hardships as well as my successes. It showcased the struggles, but more important the ways of how to overcome them. Although we are warriors each and every day, I realized that having to be a warrior, comes from a place of pain. I decided to rename this blog, and “Phoenix Rising” now stands for the story of overcoming such a painful place. My motivation for this blog hasn’t changed and I hope to share inspiration and hope, to create a sense of belonging, a space of being heard, and connecting with like minded beings who instill a sense of oneness. We are never alone, and we are unstoppable in the pursuit of what sets our soul on fire. Who I am in a nutshell... 
I am an energy healer and Reiki Master. I am surviving a chronic disease that I’ve sent into remission three times since my initial bout, 15 years ago. I continuously challenge the status quo and by doing so I change my stars. I am a believer that anything is possible. I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that true love exists on various levels. I am an optimist that will always see the glass as half full. I am a dreamer, believing in endless possibilities. Not even the sky is the limit. I have jumped off of the hamster wheel, and I am writing a new chapter. I am chasing my Nirvana to support my most authentic self. This is my story, I am that Phoenix and I am rising from the ashes. Namaste 🙏🏼💙🦋

14 thoughts on “Chasing Happiness

  1. Wise words indeed dear lady. Expectations are the rules we bind ourselves with too, and never reaching them. Until we see and realize that it is only us stopping us from reaching them. Always trying to build a tower with the plans of a hay shed. But we’ll get there, when we knock down that old structure first 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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    1. Working on letting go of expectations has been one of my greatest works. It is really measurable and has made a world of difference. There is so much to learn when we keep an open mind and are eager students it can make all the difference.

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  2. I find when people say happiness they mean the temporary high they get when they get something or achieve something.
    I’ve actually come to hate the concept of happiness. One: people think they can have it all the time, when they don’t have it they think there is something wrong with them. Two : people pretend to have it all the time because that is what everyone else is doing and because they think they can have it all the time (see one). And three: What is happiness compared to love, joy, hope, satisfaction, etc? Just a temporary high that leads people to become addicted to money, wealth and ‘success’.
    I don’t want to be happy, I want to learn, to become more, to make the world a better place. I want to look back at my life and say: “it was worth it”.

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    1. I hear you and your points are correct and valid. I think sometimes there is a lack of maturity and chasing the wrong ideals. Labels are slapped on without understanding the deeper meaning. And expectations to having it all the time #2 are the killer of everything, only leaving you with disappointment that can lead to bitterness. Inner peace, contentment, hope and joy on the other hand can lead to great happiness and a feeling of bliss once you give up the need to control everything. Very well put and thank you for stopping by.


  3. Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

    I really love the idea of eliminating first, when you speak of life not being about experience but about experience and growth, do you feel like happiness is meant to come and go, changing places with sadness, anger, loneliness, pain, etc or do you think it can be made to last forever?

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    1. I don’t think happiness can be a constant and we experience all kinds of lessons in life. Some good and beautiful and some we could do without. We have no control over it but we can choose our attitude towards it. Sadness, anger, loneliness and pain are all emotions that accompany the experience. How do we address these emotions? Do we resist and therefore struggle more, creating an even bigger turmoil inside, or do we embrace them and try to understand what they are teaching us. For me it is the latter and therefore a certain contentment relates to inner peace and therefore happiness.


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