Posted in Life, Purpose driven, Soul

“The story of my life”

Have you ever heard someone referring to an unfortunate event with the saying “it’s the story of my life?” This phrase seems to fit only the hardships and I don’t recall anyone ever using it while something positive has happened to them. It’s quite the opposite, and it’s always referring to something negative, to something bad that is filled with emotions and pain. It’s a bad thing that has happened frequently and sometimes it’s used in a humorous context, even though we brace ourselves and have come to believe that we attract these circumstances. That pain and darkness is ours but luck and good fortune is not. We use “the story of my life” to lament the fact that a particular misfortune is about to happen, or has happened already. It’s about something you have experienced many times, something you know all too well.

On the contrary nobody has ever shouted from the rooftop of how lucky and blessed they are, or have they? I wonder if this would be deemed as acceptable behavior or would we think that the poor soul must have gone bonkers! Would we shake our head in disbelief or would we feel jealous and envious, secretly wishing that we could the same? Or would it fuel the gossip mill and give us something to talk about, unable to relate and therefore easily deemed as foreign behavior? Could we celebrate and be happy with that person, the one that is different from us and would our compassion meter have enough to share with another besides ourselves?

With certainty it is not the norm to hear someone proclaim such a statement and maybe it is an invitation for us to count our blessings and DO shout it from the rooftop or wherever else with gusto and every inch of our being. Maybe it is an opportunity to commit and try it for ourselves. What we’ve been programmed to assume when someone uses this phrase is someone soaking wet, caught in a heavy downpour at the worst possible timing, as if one thing has lead to another, in defeat, and because “when it rains it pours.”

What about if we looked at “the story of our life” through a different lens! How would you describe the story of your life? What would it entail? What have you come to expect when it comes to your own chapters? Is pain a big part of the story?


We are the co-creators of our life and the time is now. More than ever are we needed to support Mother Earth and each other. Together we discover and explore our unique gifts in times of strengths, in times we lean on each other, and in times when we learn from each other. This blog started as an outlet and what I ultimately called my “Warriors Journey.” It was a way to document the ups and downs of my life, sharing my hardships as well as my successes. It showcased the struggles, but more important the ways of how to overcome them. Although we are warriors each and every day, I realized that having to be a warrior, comes from a place of pain. I decided to rename this blog, and “Phoenix Rising” now stands for the story of overcoming such a painful place. My motivation for this blog hasn’t changed and I hope to share inspiration and hope, to create a sense of belonging, a space of being heard, and connecting with like minded beings who instill a sense of oneness. We are never alone, and we are unstoppable in the pursuit of what sets our soul on fire. Who I am in a nutshell... 
I am an energy healer and Reiki Master. I am surviving a chronic disease that I’ve sent into remission three times since my initial bout, 15 years ago. I continuously challenge the status quo and by doing so I change my stars. I am a believer that anything is possible. I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that true love exists on various levels. I am an optimist that will always see the glass as half full. I am a dreamer, believing in endless possibilities. Not even the sky is the limit. I have jumped off of the hamster wheel, and I am writing a new chapter. I am chasing my Nirvana to support my most authentic self. This is my story, I am that Phoenix and I am rising from the ashes. Namaste 🙏🏼💙🦋

18 thoughts on ““The story of my life”

  1. Happiness is a choice. Happiness arises from a series of decisions we make moment to moment:

    “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”

    Marcus Aurelius

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Love this and made a similar comment to another blogger responding to this. Everything is a choice and it is always ours to make, and doesn’t depend on another or our circumstances. 💙🙏🏼


  2. It is pushed by the fears of others, we are made to ‘feel’ it is not acceptable to ‘shout if from the rooftops’ when something goes well, because we are being disrespectful to those that aren’t going well. Told we are being egotistical if we do shout it out. And rubbing their noses in it or making them feel worse of themselves because they feel it must be them that holds them in this negative way. And we’ve all felt that at some time in our lives. But…doesn’t it also give those feeling down of themselves something to aspire to, something to show there is a way up and out.
    I watched in horror as I found out that all pre-school children were given awards etc, there was no losers. And as that generation now come of age they had no idea how to deal with a loss or defeat in any way. In fact they became very upset AND lashed out in a temper tantrum like a child because it was all that they knew. The do-gooders had created a monster. Everything must have a balance or with what would we measure anything against. If we don’t experience something it ever stands in the unknown and we can’t deal with it 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

    Liked by 2 people

    1. You bring up great points my friend and I have noted a similar opinion to lessons that never had the chance of being learned. For instance, I get that we want to spoil our children, make life easier for them as it perhaps was for us, but if it’s always a yes scenario and we are never told no, how can we appreciate anything or learn good values. 😉💙

      Liked by 1 person

  3. I’ve used that phrase myself, how I view my life is relative I see to good things but often don’t feel them especially in these days where there’s so much suffering it almost feels wrong to feel gratitude.
    I hope you’re well 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s