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The mirror effect

Many will say that being an empath can be a blessing as well as a curse. I have written about it myself, sharing my experiences as an empath and it’s true that it’s not always easy.

I came to read about the mirror effect from the minds journal which describes it a little more. Their take is that an empath is a person who picks up on other people’s emotions and energy, hidden behaviors and true personality traits. Empath’s can take them on and project the emotions back to their rightful owner. This can be very intimidating for the owner leaving them feeling bare and exposed. The facade, the wall that was so carefully created to hide that true self weakens in the presence of an empath which can feel uncomfortable. Perhaps uncomfortable for both sides.

Empath’s can wear other people’s truth and energy just like a mask that they hide behind, even if the person is unaware of what they are projecting. Anything that is hidden and painful, not to be exposed and put on the butchers block for evaluation and chopping. It brings vulnerability and fear of judgement. These hidden things include a person insecurity, shame, suppressed guilt or anger. The longer these feelings are suppressed / hidden, the longer this energy stays buried.

An empath will expose the shadow side of someone, seeing those traits that are often so carefully protected. Protected to the extent of becoming a different person, wearing a mask to hide the true self. All these are reason as to why there can be an instant dislike towards an empath. The stars literally have to align to feel comfortable in the presence of an empath. It’s one thing not being ready to face our faults and work on our shadow self, and it’s yet another to be truly seen by another, in all our glory, faults and shortcomings included.

If this has been your experience, it could be a sign that you are reflecting back to them the truth that they deny. Remembering such may help you to understand and not blame yourself for the gift you’ve been given.


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16 thoughts on “The mirror effect

  1. Isn’t it fun, to walk into a crowded room and feel like you’ve been stripped naked and thrown out into the middle of the floor to the cheers of the crowd…and your total embarrassment. But, we’re just picking up all of those awkward, non confident, fearful projections from everyone around us. Wait till you can do that and no longer bat an eyelid. All it takes is to deal with all our own stuff, those things we hold deep. And there is its clue…we ‘hold’ onto our bits, along with everyone else’s that come along. The moment we resolve ‘our’ stuff the ‘holding’ pattern is gone too. And then being ‘open’ and no longer ‘holding’, all those ‘feelings’ from those around us just flow on through. Yes, we will feel them even more because our sensitivity will have gone through the roof…but…no longer held. To finally be able to do this (and I’ve still got days where it still touches me), is like swimming in a clear mountain stream…and no rocks in your swimmers 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 😂 🤣

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    1. Again you speak to my heart. I remember the fear of such, being observed as if a spotlight was on me and being stripped down in front of everybody. I have changed quite a bit since then. I have realized that it is not within my control and frankly I don’t care or want it to be any longer. I have accepted my own unique craziness and I don’t see it as a burden but as a unique gift. Not everybody will understand and you know what “that’s ok.” 😊💙🙏🏼🦋

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  2. I am not many peoples cup of tea. yet so often alone over a lifetime, don’t misunderstand I love, my own space, my own place, and my own time more and more as I age. I give of myself still no where as much as I once did before I became unwell. I have learned to be and be content. I have made amazing friends over my lifetime, but I tend not to take them with me on my life journey. Or they come for a period with me via letters emails, and then time and their own lives alter. Or I do.

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    1. It truly is a process isn’t it? Becoming aware, acknowledging it, understanding it and trying to heal ourselves in the process of it all. I am sorry you had to experience this, but on the other hand, you do know that it is the toughest lessons that lead to the most beautiful outcomes. Much luck to you and please feel free to reach out.

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  3. Thank you, iv been allowing my empath side out and starting to understand it more. Your post has helped me so much. It has opened my eyes, I want to learn how to manage my abilities. I know my dad was empathic but he never tried to learn that side of him. Instead he was a alcoholic. So since my little boy was born exactly the same I realised that there must be more people like me, so I started searching. My goal is to learn everything I need to know to be able to help my son when the time is right. Any help you could offer would be much appreciated. 😊

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    1. I am so glad you found something helpful between the lines. One of the things I learned along the way is to protect my energy. It’s work in progress and perhaps different for everyone. I don’t think that there is one fits all type of remedy. As Empath’s we often take on emotions that are not ours. We absorb the energy around us so to speak. We hear the unspoken word and we see where others see nothing. The next time you experience a drop on energy, feeling overcome by emotions or something like this, pause for a moment and examine what’s going on. Are you carrying your emotions or are you absorbing someone else’s energy which is not yours to carry?
      Best of luck on your journey and please feel free to stop by anytime. There is so much to learn and there has never been a time like now. 💙🙏🏼


      1. Thank you, that’s a great help, my abilitys are getting stronger the more I learn, also that I am not ru ning away from them.

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