Food for thought. Actions and reactions. Give and take. Cause and effect. Being a sucker for quotes, they always seem to find me at the right time, speaking their magic meaning, often leaving me reassured, at times pondering, and sometimes on the heels of revelations and aha moments. I never heard it quite like this when it comes to the quote below, but I find truths between those lines and I’m sure we each have a little Story to tell.
“Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you.”
This post has been scheduled for over a week now and I feel the need to edit and add to it a little. While I still believe in much of it’s content, I have learned a few things in the past week. When I read the quote now, there is a deeper meaning that emerges. A meaning that tells me that a statement like this comes from trauma, a previous experience that has left a wound, a scar if you will. Because of this scar and the fear to experience this pain again, a warning is given to be careful of what you tolerate, putting the responsibility and the burden into your corner as if it was entirely up to you what follows next. Is it really all within your control, the control we urge ourselves so often to let go of? And is it fair to place such burdens onto ourselves? Surely everything has it’s limits, no different when it comes to this quote, but my main goal here would be not to let my experiences define me and harden my heart. Not to be obsessed with having control and the upper hand, but to trust and believe in the good of every situation, even if it has challenges attached.
What do you think?