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The shadow self – The acknowledgement

From time to time we should take a look at ourselves and work with our shadow self. We all have one and it’s the side of us that’s usually hidden in the dark. The side that is less than perfect, a side that is impulsive and wounded. It’s also a side that acts out of character, and that can wound others in an order to protect itself. It’s usually a side we hide and at times avoid to acknowledge. After all it’s painful to stare our flaws into the face, or is it?

Our shadow self might signify our insecurities, our poor behavior and how we react to challenges, but it might also close us up, unable to react at all which can do harm as well. In an article by lonerwolf it is mentioned that if you are truly honest about growing and living your life to the fullest, you will at some point come across many parts of yourself that you’ll find difficult, if not completely disturbing to accept.

These ugly and frightening parts of ourselves are elements of the shadow self: the darker side of our nature. Have you summoned your courage and met some of these parts yet?

The shadow self is an archetype that forms part of the unconscious mind and is composed of repressed ideas, instincts, impulses, weaknesses, desires, precessions, and embarrassing fears. It’s often what we perceive as chaos and it’s everything that leaves us vulnerable. Almost like judgement day, an attack on our character. This often leaves us wanting to defend ourselves. Surely we are not that bad, are we, “they must have gotten it all wrong, and why couldn’t they see our good intentions?”

So who is this shadow self? It is a part of us, although initially we are born pure, like a blank sheet of paper. But at some point throughout our childhood we learn to separate our experiences into two categories. Good and evil. From the moment we engage in this knowledge our shadow self is born and we begin to divide ourselves into multiple parts. The dark shadow traits accumulate just as much as the pure, light ones do, and it depends on our experiences which part weighs heavier. This happens in the unconscious mind and is never fully integrated into our conscience.

I say that we need to be aware and visit this side from time to time because a lack of awareness can be dangerous. As the dark side within us accumulates and goes without acknowledgment, it can actually take over and tip the balance. It can manifest depression as well as our inner demons. The denial can lead to physical, emotional, and psychological, as well as interpersonal consequences that last a long time.

There is much more that can be said and perhaps I will break it down into a series, should there is any interest. But for now I just want you to sit with your shadow self and try to acknowledge it. Can you recognize some of these traits that make up your darker side? Just be still and bring awareness to it. Be honest with yourself and don’t worry, only you will know this, and it’s your secret for the time being, for you to understand. It’s not evil or a bad part of you, but it is a part that carries a heavy load that consists of your hardships and negative experiences. And please know that your experiences do not make you a bad person. You are a survivor and you’ve made it this far.


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I am an energy healer and Reiki Master. I am surviving a chronic disease that I’ve sent into remission three times since my initial bout, 15 years ago. I continuously challenge the status quo and by doing so I change my stars. I am a believer that anything is possible. I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that true love exists on various levels. I am an optimist that will always see the glass as half full. I am a dreamer, believing in endless possibilities. Not even the sky is the limit. I have jumped off of the hamster wheel, and I am writing a new chapter. I am chasing my Nirvana to support my most authentic self. This is my story, I am that Phoenix and I am rising from the ashes. Namaste 🙏🏼💙🦋

20 thoughts on “The shadow self – The acknowledgement

    1. Thank you so much Dwight, this means so much to me. I agree and this confinement might be the perfect time to work on ourselves. I am working on another part of this segment which I will post the beginning of next week.
      Thank you for stopping by and your feedback. Have a great week.


  1. I faced it, I fought it, and then I acknowledged its love. Chocolate will do that! 😂 🤣
    But that was a great piece dear lady. There was only one other bit to add, that blank sheet at birth is slowly filled with the fears of our parents, those pieces of themselves that they have not fully acknowledged yet, and in fact only know that way because of THEIR parents who brought them up under the same conditions.
    I pulled it apart, twisted it, maimed it and even thought I had found answers…but it is meant to test us so that we can become that courage, as you said, to have the courage to face ourselves and understand what had created it so that it can be changed and set us free ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋

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      1. Thank you Kris. It is indeed a difficult chain but we would not appreciate us in that journey to break free from our fears within it if it didn’t test us. If we are given money we just keep spending it, but if we have to work for it we take much more care in what we spend it on. Hopefully we are worth so much more than a weekly paycheck 😀
        Thank you for your description, we are indeed mush for so long and then to make it worse ‘what’ do we want to sculpture, let alone actually create it. But thankfully we eventually find that love hidden in our journey, the one thing that guides us and look for forever among our adventures 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋

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      2. your words are a lovely truism. for me, the love of people I’ve met here is more and never met is more real than ones I know personally. and I’m blessed by the ones in here I have actually gotten to know and write to and text or call. that is true love.

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    1. It makes perfectly sense and you are so right to include the programming we are passed down from our parents. I have included it into another piece that will post next week. With credits to you of course.
      I am learning so much about the shadow self lately and have sat with it for some time now. Today I woke up with a much appreciated peace inside and it’s yet to be seen if it’s here to stay. 🙏🏼❤️🦋

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      1. It will Rhapsody. It is like painting a masterpiece, in the beginning it is just colors, but as time goes by it slowly shows its beauty and stands out for what it has become, a creation like no other 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏼 🦋

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