Mom spent the majority of her life alone, in solitude, within her own four walls. After the early accidental death of my father, she ventured out a few times trying to connect with someone but it never worked out. People often wondered why she choose to spend her life alone, she was still so young and had the majority of her life ahead of herself. I would say that my Dad set the bar pretty high with the way he loved her. She knew exactly what she wanted, what she was used to and wasn’t she wasn’t willing compromise. I believe that he was her soulmate. That she couldn’t accept less and as sweet as it may sound, it also was heartbreaking because it left her alone for the rest of her life.
So what is a soulmate?
A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet. A connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong, and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior.
So what is this post about and what am I saying?
I say that she didn’t choose to be alone. She simply chose to love herself more. It required her to be the love of her own life because nobody cane along to fulfill that position.
I believe in soulmates, and that connection that is a knowing deep inside, a comfort that is soothing and doesn’t require words and explanations. I believe it starts with chemistry, something familiar yet exciting. A place we call home, that nourishes our comfort and well being. It doesn’t need to be justified or explained, it is something you feel. I believe that we all chase this kind of love and it’s something we all want. In the process of it and while setting our own standards, we should remember that nothing is ever perfect. Even soulmates are a work in progress as you learn about each other and grow together.
And although I understand Mom’s decision and the reasons behind it, I can’t help but wonder if her expectations perhaps where set too high. So the moral of this post is to give yourself and each other a break. Nobody is perfect and if you are willing to put in the work, you will feel that eventually you will have the perfect ending after all.
what a beautifully, thought provoking post………..your mom and dad must have had quite the romance…….I hope they are enjoying it again 🙂
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I truly believe they do! I believe in fate I believe in soul mates and I believe in destiny 😘❤
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Your parents had a special bond, which also made your mother to wish for all or nothing, Rhapsody.
I think, that we have several soulmates for each life. Both as partners and as friends. Often souls outgrow each other in some ways by the years, why also so many split up again and search for a new soulmate, which again is a part of our evolution.
Much love to you, dear friend ❤
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They are amazing beings those souls that touch us in our journey. And I know we all search for our soul mates, but the most incredible loving connections can be those that flatten us. Take us so deep inside to help us break free and find our truth. They come along with a great love, so that we can be too ❤️
Yes, a beautiful loving connection forever would be fantastic, I dream about it often. But I know the greatest loves are those souls who we meet and they bare our souls so that we can be that unconditional we all seek. Maybe then my dream will touch that other 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🦘 🐬 🐳 🌺
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Yes, I absolutely believe they do….Lovely post 🙂 Huge hugsss
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I love this idea that even soulmates can be a work in progress. That is such an interesting post. Thank you for this insightful and thoughtful post, M.
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I’m not fond of the phrases soulmate or forever home (unless it is for a pet) or other words that mean all or nothing. I appreciate the comments I’ve read in here and especially your last couple of sentences in your thoughts, Rhapsody.
I totally believe in kindred spirits, they happen and grow toward you and also away as we change. Connections are so important in living, kindred or souls or whatever. It is beautiful your mom had the memories of an early love that sustained her. Those don’t happen often-It is beautiful to see!
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❤️❤️❤️
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