Maybe there are things in our life’s we want to change. Maybe we don’t agree with some things in our world. How much things have changed! Today I am pausing to take a look at how I can contribute to make my world a better place, not just for myself but also for those around me. Coming across these guidelines from Lori, surely feel like a winner to me.
It is number 2 that leaves me a little ashamed today. Judgement. I don’t like judgement and yet inadvertently I have used it in a recent issue with Mom. I haven’t talked to her in nearly three weeks. She hasn’t answered the iPad and in the past she has done things like that when she was mad at me and didn’t want to talk to me. Of course there were excuses I tried to make prior to arriving at this point, maybe she didn’t hear it, maybe she is sleeping, is the iPad charged etc. but in the end I felt that she just didn’t have anything to say to me. I assumed and judged her based on past experiences and her stubbornness. I was sure of this since it had become increasingly harder to talk to her, not being able to tell her what she so desperately wanted to hear. News has arrived that the iPad won’t turn on and that she hasn’t been feeling well again. I have not felt too hot myself, and it’s not the first time it feels as if we are connected, sharing each other’s health shortfalls. Now with the new information, it leaves me feeling that perhaps I have done her wrong. I have assumed and judged her, not fully knowing the truth and there is something to be learned here for me. Or was it that I just went with my gut feeling and it finally has let me down? I am not sure but I still like the following lines and believe there is always improvements to be made.
A better place….
Be the person who breaks the cycle.
If you were judged, choose understanding.
If you were rejected, choose acceptance.
If you were shamed, choose compassion.
Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you.
Vow to be better than what broke you – to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.