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Dealing with Rejection

There is purpose and meaning behind everything. Things will happen and unfold as they are meant to, in their due time. Nothing can be rushed or forced, and timing plays an important role. Perhaps a little luck and being in the right place at the right time can be essential as well.

It felt strange to interview the other day, and finding myself on the other side of the spectrum. I have hired and interviewed so many people in my career, and although I never thought of it like this before, it felt as if it was my turn to be in the hot seat. I went into the interview with the top paragraph in mind, and placed the outcome fully into the hands of the universe. Was I ready to go back to work, recovered and strong enough, or would this become nothing more than a good practice run? How would I score, competing with so many others there, pursuing the same opportunity?

I found myself struggling with the six page application that was asking for career goals and where I see myself in 2019 and 2020. What was my goal for salary progression and what was I working towards. I didn’t think retirement and a life in a tiny home, “The bus” was a sufficient answer. It caught me by surprise and reminded me that in all actuality my career was behind me. I had little aspirations of promoting, of becoming a store Manager or earning a certain income. Of course I would want to earn enough money to live comfortably, to support the few things that are important to me, but that could have been easily made me look like I was a person with no goals. How would I explain that memories and moments, that experiences and a passport full of stamps was more important than financial wealth and a house full of stuff?

It took me longer to fill out the application than the actual interview lasted. Within five minutes it was all over with, and to me that had never been a good sign. In my time interviewing others, it meant that the candidate was simply not the right fit. I always spent more time with people I was interested in as I was eager to get to know them. In my case being the interviewee, there was little to no connection, and although the interview, all five minutes worth was really good as far as a professional level is concerned, I felt that I was not what they were looking for, and I felt it coming through. It was as if I was politely and complimentary rejected as we said our goodbyes. This morning I received the official email telling me that the decision was made to go with someone that had prior experience, wishing me nothing but the best of luck in my job search.

My thoughts were confirmed, but I couldn’t help feel rejected and not wanted at first.

Rejection: The dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc. Nonacceptance, declining, turning down

It is still a blow to someone’s ego, knowing that you didn’t make the cut, and it leaves you wondering as to why. Perhaps you didn’t fit the image, perhaps being too old didn’t fit the image. Sometimes similar experiences such as dealing with the public and years of customer service are not enough when it comes to competing with a younger, perhaps more attractive face. This is exactly how it left me feeling, and the fact remains that it is much tougher to find work being older, closer to retirement. I think there is a stigma, a certain label that gets attached, a liability that comes with age, although due to laws such opinions would never be expressed. At the end of the day, I will not harbor and entertain such thoughts, but I am not oblivious to them. I will focus on that it simply wasn’t meant to be, just yet, and seldom do we ever get the first job that comes wandering our way. The perfect opportunity is waiting out there, and I will know when it comes my way.

All is well, and if you are rejected for whatever reason, personally or professionally, remember that something better is on the way, and that it wasn’t due to you.

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Who am I, and why I write. I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I am the one, holding on to the silver lining when the skies are gray. I’m a believer that nothing is coincidence, but that everything has purpose. I’ve made my mistakes, don’t we all, but I see them as growing pains and they are a part of who I am today. I have lost myself in order to find myself, and I still do from time to time, but in a good way. I’m a big child who laughs until my belly hurts when life wants to be serious. Career wise: I’ve been there, done that, and I took “The jump” off the hamster wheel in an effort to change my future. I didn’t land all that soft, but I can say that I’m still proud to have found the courage to do it. Coming full circle, I had it all, and yet I was lonely and had nothing. Today I choose to be a collector of moments and I chase memories, instead of the material stuff. Less is more, and the motto is quality over quantity. You’d be amazed at how freeing it can be. I see myself as a free spirit that believes in an unconventional lifestyle. Somehow I go against the grain most of the times, not to rebel, but because it feels right to stay true to my unique and authentic self. It takes courage, and you often stand alone, but if you dare, you soon realize that it is the only way if you don’t want to lose who you are. Just like most, my past wasn’t easy and I come from a life that didn’t always give me the opportunity to be heard. Few related and even fewer cared to take the time. But that’s the past and it’s history, the future hasn’t happened and the “NOW” is truly all we ever have. In the end we all have a story to tell, and we all seek to be understood. We all yearn to be heard and accepted and still life is hard and our path is full of stumbling blocks. If we can see the lessons in adversity we may realize that the toughest moments are often our greatest teachers. There is a reason for the saying that the stars can’t shine without darkness, and it might be darkness that will show you the light.
It took a series of (un)fortunate events, to learn to glow through the pain, to learn how to dance in the rain. I believe in Magic and wonder, and the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. As an empath this old soul often feels a little too much, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Today, I am here to tell my story because I believe that it can help others. It is my hope to bring inspiration and strengths to you, while showing you that it can be done. I know you are out there, and I know you are suffering in silence. I am here to tell you that you are not alone, and your voice is being heard loud and clear. Hang on and be strong, transformation is yours. 
In light and love....Rhapsody Bohème 💙🦋

19 thoughts on “Dealing with Rejection

  1. Keep the faith. In my last role as a hiring manager, the company wanted me to strongly consider older candidates since they were seen as less of a flight risk than millennials…not that I’m condoning their prejudice. You’ll find a place where your values are aligned.

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  2. It was not to be this time my friend. Something better will come along. Plus your priorities have shifted. This morning I declined a call from a recruiter because I realised that my future lies in a different direction. It is ok. Hugs. X

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  3. Being rejected hurts in your bones. Which already hurt…So unfair! Being on the edge of a precipice, shoved around while on it, and then being told that path you were looking at is closed…You are a beautiful wonderful person, I know we’ll end up in a garden soon!

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  4. Rhapsody, even as I read your previous posts, and this one, I did not feel that you had chosen the right job to feed your soul. I think that your own doubt fed into this process and so your enthusiasm was missing. I feel something better (but maybe not quite as lucrative) will suddenly present itself. It will be better to have have a job which makes you happy. I think you have had a narrow escape from being shackled to a job that sucks the life from you.
    Just my feelings, but I feel the next few days will take you in a new and more exciting direction than your failed application would ever offer!

    I drew two cards for this…

    Knight of Wands, and Ace of Pentacles came up… Both exciting cards for potential new job. 😉💞💞💞

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    1. You are absolutely right and I couldn’t have put it better. It’s something I had to do, look for work, but I was never convinced about this job and what I would really like to do is help other, be a life coach or something like that. But then that won’t happen with school etc. and I would have to learn not to take on the emotions of everyone else. Time will tell.
      Thank you for drawing the cards for me. Great cards indeed. ❤️🙏🏼😘

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  5. I have no clue what a Knight of Wands and a Ace of Pentacles mean, but I do hpe Colette’s feelings about your journey will come true. You deserve this. You will get it. Just give yourself some time. Keep well. xoxo

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  6. All is well, even if we are rejected. We have to remember that it’s everyone’s right to say no, regardless of the amazing things you can offer. If the rejecting person can’t see the great things you can offer to your relationship (whatever the context of it) then it’s time to move on. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Absolutely and I completely agree. It might hurt temporarily but I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason. I am grateful that I can always look at the glass as half full.
      Thank you so much for stopping by and your valuable feedback. Much appreciated. Have a wonderful week.

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