You could say that I had a great career, I made it in a strange country other than where I grew up and success always followed me no matter what position I held. For the majority of my working years, I have been in upper management, executing company direction, recruiting talent, as well as inspiring and developing such to move up the corporate ladder. I have held a career many would aspire towards and at times their drive to attain what they envisioned as “power” was poisoned with jealousy and envy. Today I realize that the meaning of success depends highly on your take of what a great, successful career is. These days, I would give you a much different definition of success and what it means to me now. It has little to do with status and prestige. It’s not a matter of power and control, even though there will always be those who enjoy superiority over others. I never have, but I enjoyed making a difference for people, being a mentor and being in a position that allowed me to help others achieve their goals by making them come true. Those have truly been some of the happiest moments in my career and what has made it all worthwhile.
Today I would also tell you that the higher you climb the corporate ladder, the lonelier it get’s. Not all tops have a beautiful view and I have seen the corporate world turn corrupt with greed and a never satisfied hunger to outperform prior performances. To do and expect more with less as I can’t help but wonder where the work-life balance is. It’s missing and more stress is added. Should I be surprised of how many suffer and are sick, how many may never have the quality of life to enjoy retirement, given they reach it age wise or are able to retire financially. It’s not normal that we force ourselves to perform at such levels and you can’t tell me that there are no consequences to pay for it. By now, you have probably noticed how passionate I am about this subject, because I do believe that there is more to life and some key drivers are education, encouragement and choice. If you can do it for awhile, save up and get out, do it. If you are good at it and can make a career of it, go for it but keep an eye on the years. I did it for too long.
Recent events forced me to take a look back at how it all came to be. There was a time I had no choice but to promote. I blame it on my work ethic as it was always what got me noticed. Pretty soon I was in special classes, finding myself groomed to take on additional responsibilities. I never turned down a promotion and I have always moved up. Whether it was due to needing the extra income, or simply not being able to get out of it, because after all, you’d be weird if you didn’t want to promote or have some goals of moving up, right? How could you not have aspirations and how could you not want to brag about status and compete with the next person. You’d be simply boring, lacking enthusiasm and drive. End of story, nobody would ever relate to this. I always promoted and I always worked my tail off, simply because I don’t know how to give anything less than a 100%.
The RA has forced my work habits into surrender these days and I can’t work like I used to in my twenties anymore. I probably wouldn’t be able to either way, with or without the RA. A couple of weeks ago I was asked to join TAP, a Talent acquisition program, designed for the next level, ready to promote. I agreed and felt honored and appreciated, I truly was. It is a great feeling when your hard work doesn’t goes unnoticed and your talent is appreciated. Much of the prep for the upcoming program was smooth and familiar, filled with prior experiences, it felt like an old, familiar routine. And then it hit me and who was I kidding? The timing for this could have not been more off, and it might as well never be right again for me. Was it ever, I wonder? There is much to anticipate in Germany that might occupy my mind in more important means than a new career. It already does either way and whether I’m here or there, the facts remain the same. A part of me is very appreciative, while the rest of me feels like I have been there and done it. I was thinking of my Rock Bottom Oracle card. True freedom is attained only through complete surrender. My interpretation means to move aside and to let new, young talent emerge and take the reigns who are still interested in building a career. I wonder what my future was going to be health-wise, adding more stress to the mix while I’m trying so hard to eliminate it! While I struggle already and sometimes don’t know how to face the day! Isn’t my body already trying to tell me what I need to know? Days went by and I felt guilty of letting my boss down. I waited, instead of making a hasty decision, but nothing changed. Instead more news came and I realized how truly needed I am in Germany. Ultimately there is no doubt that I need to go home. The “eventually” (going home) has turned into a “ASAP”, pressed with a urgency as time is running out to truly make this happen.
My heart continued to feel heavy each time I passed by the training package on the dinning room table. The joy and excitement I should have felt about promoting was largely overshadowed by the unknown and a future that needs to unfold on its own vs. being controlled in ways it is not meant to be. Finally, I made a decision and wrote a thank you email in honor and appreciation, but also in declining the offer of moving forward at this time. For the first time in my career, I felt that I had a choice and that I didn’t have to go through with something that wasn’t a fit. I’m not saying that it’s not a fit, but timing is everything. Money didn’t matter anymore and was definitely not forcing me into something I didn’t want to do. I was in control of dedicating my time, to pursue my passions, for as much as possible and to reconnect during times of solitude. I had a choice, and a wild choice it was. One that took courage and one that made me stand up for what is right for me. One that I will always remember and one that allowed me to become the architect of my own life. Will it always be this way, I don’t know, but if I can help it, YES, because let me tell you, it felt pretty darn good afterwards. A huge burden was lifted to focus on the things that need my foremost attention and the effort of keeping stress at bay. There still is plenty to come working in retail over the holidays, haha.
The face of relief and enjoying a wild moment with Mother Nature and getting caught in the rain. Money can’t buy this…..
I feel happy for you, that you were able to take a choice, as was right for you. It is not always about climbing up in the job, more important to climb up in your private life. No one pay you well enough for being so stressed and many burn out by same reason. It is important to remember to live, while we still are able to do this.
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Those were of course main factors to consider, especially now with the RA. I can take prescription drugs and may put a band aid in the pain, but one day this will take its toll otherwise and if I don’t want that, then I should try and make some changes. There are still no guarantees, but I can try and love that I have the choice to do so.
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I fight against Arthritis too, so I know, how bad this can be. Wonderful to have choices.
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For sure and I’m sure you can relate. It’s hard when not all days are created equal but we always di the best we can. Keep fighting.
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I do too 🙂
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Fantastic insight into the tensions we confront in life
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Thank you very much, your feedback means a lot. 😉
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Awesome and such a great read. Loved you in each and every step of your life, Rhapsody and you have taken such a wonderful decision of your life. I totally agree money cannot buy the peace and happiness. Such a beautiful picture too good. Thanks for the wonderful share.
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Awe so sweet dearest Kamal and always so kind. Thank you very much. It’s such a pleasure to share this journey with you and the wisdom you hold for all of us. Blessings my dear friend. Xo
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You are always welcome dear Rhapsody and I too am so pleased to share your journey. It feels so nice to read your awesome posts every time. Blessings to you to and have a great day.
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Thank Kamal and blessings to you. Hugs
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Welcome Rhapsody and blessings to you too dear.
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That is so cool you did that! Well done. It can’t have been easy, after all those years of self-indoctrination, but you and your joyful, smart heart did it: congratulations : ) xo
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I did didn’t I 😉. You are so sweet and your are dear to my heart. Nothing is ever easy, but its amazing how the toughest of moments end up our proudest of moments at times. It’s beautiful when it works out that way. Xo 🦋
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🙏🏼
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money cant buy anything except for materialistic creation of man….. the peace, love, affection all comes from somewhere else…… that smile that mother nature brings on our faces is worth million dollar itself…..
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Absolutely true and very wise words. It appears you have your own stories to tell. Xoxo
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ha ha….. its the experiences of life….. they make us wise……
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For sure is…..
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Great writing, my friend, and I can feel and agree with every word and every emotion you have put into this. The freedom to think on these levels and the courage to act on it comes only with the wisdom of our years. Ten years ago I would have spoken differently, but today I would take the same decision as you – and feel absolutely good and certain about it. There just comes the time one discovers that being content with the status quo, putting oneself and the loved ones first, is much more rewarding than being part of the corporate rat race. Marcus
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My dear friend Marcus. It means so much that you relate, as it reassures me that I’m in the right path. Your words are spoken as if they came from my heart and I couldn’t put it into better words. This means a lot to me, thank you for taking the time. Hugs
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You followed your heart. It always leads you to the ‘right’ path – and with a smile on your face. 😊
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Very true and all we have to do is trust, believe and have faith. It seems like a lot but they all fall in place. 😉 xo
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Good for you! We made the same decision a few years ago. Live on less, work less, enjoy life more. After watching so many people waiting for retirement to enjoy life, and then not being able to for health, money or even death. I don’t want to wit for what might not ever come. Enjoy everyday!
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I’m in great company then and I’m glad you made the jump as well. I always knew there was something special in your blog name and that it described a special soul. Very neat
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I would put my money on that train of thought 🙂
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If we could only win some. But hey we already did. 😉
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No doubt whatsoever my love. xx
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Xoxo thank you dear.
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Wonderful post from your heart to ours. Oh how we can relate to your words. Like you and most folks it took us awhile to see the meaning in your words. The world truly wants us to believe their version of success and for us it ain’t what’s real.
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I somehow knew you would relate 😉 and I’m happy you found your own version of what truly matters. Hugs
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Isn’t it great when we do!! Hopefully many reading your post will take a look at what is truly important in life. Sometimes our testimonies are what generate change.
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Thank you so much my friend. In the end we all have to decide for ourselves what matters to us and you are right. Sometimes we need the push and the reassurance from others to help us make that change for ourselves. Xo
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Ain’t wisdom great… and you have it!!!!
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Awe thank you so much. It takes one to recognize one and I’m in amazing company with you.
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Beautiful and inspiring post!
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You are so inspiring my friend. I feel a similar crossroads ahead. No longer need so much money but do need more time. Darren x
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Thank you Darren. I wish you all the best in your journey. It’s crazy how our priorities change over time and how less becomes more. All the things acquired suffocate me these days and I realized that to lighten the burden and to feel a sense of freedom, it is those very things that I need to eliminate. I’m always here if you have questions or want to talk. Thank you for understanding.
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You are lovely. Thank you. 🙂
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😉❤️
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